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Today, I was messaged by a follower from one of my accounts requesting I send him a nude picture. Now, normally I would block people instantly; however, I had previously known him and we had conversations before.
There was a time when I did exchange pictures with other guys, sometimes while I was in a relationship. But I obviously let my then-boyfriend know about my exchange. We had rules established so as to avoid conflicts, but nonetheless I respected those rules.
But this time, with my new boyfriend, I don’t actually feel the need to exchange pictures or even post them anywhere. I have reached a stage where my boyfriend is the only one I lust for and the only one who will see me be intimate.
I do not send pictures or even want to receive them at all. I do not send them voluntarily, as in he did not ask this gesture from me. I did this out of respect for him, myself, and the relationship. I don’t send pictures because I simply do not want to.
Now, this guy continued to ask for pictures, even if it wasn’t a total nude picture. I still said no.
I told this guy that sending any picture that seems inappropriate is basically cheating. He did not think so.
To him, cheating is physically doing something with someone else that is not your partner. Sure, that may be a conventional definition but to me cheating is involving some sort of continuous flirting/intimacy that does not involve your partner’s knowledge. This includes flirty texts, nudes, and actual sex.
Sending nude pictures does feel like it is a form of cheating, or betrayal. I have respect for myself and my boyfriend so I do believe it would be cheating. According to him, it wouldn’t be cheating if it was kept discreetly between him and I, but I beg to differ.
At my final rejection of his request, he finally told me that I was simply naive for my morals, arguing I was young and in love. He then proceeded to say to wait until I reached his age, because by then no one cares about the morals.
I found it sad that at that age, relationships loses steam and have to turn to outside people to ignite a fire. Maybe for some it works, but I personally want to grow old with only one, and hopefully my current boyfriend (I can dream right?).
If we lost the steam by our 40’s, I would try to start dating all over. By that age, we will have grown into new people. That way we learn about each other as if we were dating for the first time again.
I remember reading an article where it is recommended for one month you and your partner do not have sex and avoid seeing each other naked as much as possible. During that month, you go out on dates and talk to each other about your new dreams, your new goals, your new hopes, and your new ambitions. Also, remind each other again as to why you fell in love with each other in the first place! This gives you a chance to give each other positive feedback on how much each has grown and you show your admiration for them.
For now, I may be young and in love. But so what? At least I am confident in who I am and what I want out of life. I am working towards my dreams and my ambitions.
Maybe to him it is just a picture. But to me, it is a personal side of me that I now only want one person to see.
Does this mean he loves me? (: Seems like the more we get together the better life gets
This guy amazes me more and more. He’s the best cuddle bear ever.
It’s getting close to a month since my break up with my exboyfriend. It was a long distance relationship which meant there was a lot of physical distance and hardships. Now, they can work though. These are the lessons I’ve learned from the relationship, hopefully they may help you and your partner or fix any issues you two may have…
01. Insecurity will be toxic.
You have to be able to trust your partner that they will be 100% faithful and honest with you. If you have any insecurities or personal issues then you will need to have those addressed with your partner and work towards slowly coming over your fears.
02. Keep Tabs without Being Obsessed
Long distance means periods of times without talking. So be friends on Facebook, follow each other on Instagram, Twitter, etc. Don’t hide any accounts. This way you both can keep up to date with the other’s daily life.
03. Plan Dates
Skype has allowed modern relationships a new level of intimacy without physically being next to each other. Take advantage of that! Plan to see the same movie at the same time, or each of you cook the same meal and have a Skype session to mimic a romantic dinner. Little gestures like these will go the long way! Trust me on that.
04. Remember the Anniversaries
Being further away requires more emotional satisfaction to compensate for the limited physical satisfaction. So celebrate the anniversaries of your first kisses, first dates, first time you Skyped. These small gestures tell each other that you are both worth the trouble and it will give each other validation.
If your partner is avoiding talking or using Skype, those are major flags. Talk at least every other day, save certain things from being said through text to give you topics to actually talk about.
Texting regularly is important, in the texting phase send each other at least a daily pic, whether of what you are doing that day or for private pleasure!
But always push to talk more consistently. That will keep the flames sizzling!